When I accepted the summer position with Cape Cod Celebrations as an events and wedding intern, my eagerness far outweighed any anxiety. I had been to weddings before and ogled over their beauty and successes, shamelessly scrolled through dozens of wedding inspiration pages and watched ”Say Yes to the Dress” quite religiously. I thought I was confident and outspoken enough to assist in the orchestration of such an event and believed my past experiences had well prepared me for such an opportunity. I could adjust a bow tie, bustle a dress and fetch the bride a flute of champagne all while overseeing that everything was running smoothly, why couldn’t I?
I have perhaps never been so wrong in my entire life. At my first wedding of the summer I shadowed and assisted Stephanie, absorbing everything I possibly could. On the day of the event, it seemed there wasn’t a moment in which she caught her breath, paused or remained still for more than half a second. She seamlessly transitioned from positioning tables, moving chairs and coordinating with vendors to pinning boutonnieres on the groomsmen and bringing tissues to the bride just as she as tears formed in the corner of her eyes. As I watched Stephanie that weekend in May, I watched her with confidence and grace, become each and every person’s center of gravity. Any questions, concerns or potential missteps that often accompany planning and executing a wedding, were all thrown at her. They were often ugly, torn and frayed, and frankly, made me shudder in anxiety. Things that seemed completely out of her control, like the uncooperative direction of the wind, or an enormous red wine stain on a wedding dress, were dropped in her lap. But without even a lapse in her composure, she repaired each one, sewed the frayed edges back together and made them new. She patched the holes of minor problems, seemingly irreparable ones and everything in between. She was the electrician, the DJ’s right hand woman, the bride and groom’s shoulder to lean on and their most trusted advisor.
For a month I have had the privilege of assisting the planners at Cape Cod Celebrations and the amazing opportunity of learning from some of the most skilled event planners in the business. Not only have they exposed me to all the “ins and outs” of event planning, they have also taught me very valuable life lessons. Most internships, like this one, intend to expose aspiring professionals to potential careers and work related paths. But unlike Cape Cod Celebrations, these internships are often very black and white and their exposure is frequently dry or lacks a certain richness. Aside from beginning to learn and understand the world of event planning, the planners have shown me how to be a confident and assertive woman in all of my professional passions and pursuits. Though watching such multitasking, organization and overall mastery of the business carried out with grace and elegance has been immensely inspiring, I have been equally taken by the determination and confidence each planner has in ensuring the success of each and every event. Their model of ambition and drive will remain with me long after the wedding season has come to a close.
Though I was incredibly naive at the start of this opportunity to think that I knew exactly what this internship would entail, I am just beginning to learn. At each wedding I assist with, I again and again watch as the planners ensure that every note plays together in tune; a flurry of tents, chairs, cocktails, dresses and ties enmeshing together in perfect harmony.
I am ecstatic to continue taking part in helping with many more weddings as the New England summer has finally fallen on Cape Cod. Throughout the next few months I know I will never be desensitized to the work that the planners at Cape Cod Celebrations do. Every wedding sings a new tune, and I will never not be amazed by the harmony that Jamie and her team so beautifully compose time and time again.