Excited news!! A couple of months ago I was approached by writer Susan Santangelo who has written Moving Can Be Murder and Retirement Can be Murder. She was at the end of writing her new book - Marriage Can Be Murder - and asked that I help her with the destination wedding tips at the end of the book. We came up with a list and it was published and her new book that launched this week! She is going to be doing a book signing today (June 30) at noon at the BARN & Co. and details cape cod on Route 6A in Dennis - stop by and check it out! I would love to be there with her, but I have to be in Wellfleet working a destination wedding! Stay tuned though because we will be planning a fun launch party in the next month or so!
Planning Your Cape Cod Proposal
So you have decided she is the one, you have bought the ring, you have asked her family and now it is time to find the perfect Cape Cod location to pop the question. Lucky for you, Cape Cod is very picturesque and has a lot of hidden romantic locations, so it really shouldn’t be so hard to do, right? Well if you find yourself running in circles you can always hire a professional proposal planner to wow her!
Here is our list of some of the best locations on Cape Cod to get down on one knee.
Lighthouses - There are 16 lighthouses on Cape Cod, not including Nantucket and Martha’s Vineyard. Choose one in the town you grew up in or visited when summering on the Cape.
Beaches - Not to be captain obvious, but any Cape Cod beach at sunset would make a perfect backdrop for your proposal! Choose one that has meaning to both of you.
The National Seashore - From Fort Hill to Coast Guard Beach and more, there are plenty of perfect locations on the National Seashore for your popping the question.
Monuments & Towers - Pilgrim Monument, Scargo Tower, the Jenny Lind Tower just to name a few! There is nothing like proposing with an aerial view!
The Islands - Have a connection to the islands, Nantucket or Martha’s Vineyard would each supply you with a variety of locations to ask her the big question.
Now it is not always about the location, but also about the memories of the proposal and how you can share the story with friends and family. If you can, hire a photographer to capture the moment from behind the scenes and then go right into your engagement shoot. Or be sure to have a camera on hand for some long-arm shots or to hand off to a passer by so that you can capture the moment!
If you need assistance with your proposal or you just really want to wow her, contact us and ask about our proposal planning packages!
The week is finally here, you have arrived to the Cape and you have 7 days left to be sure everything you planned will be perfect come the weekend. Here are some items that you should do the week of your wedding to be sure the day will be smooth sailing.
1. Call all of your vendors to confirm. Get them a copy of your time line and review arrival and departure times. Be sure that you have taken care of all final payments as well.
2. Have a final detail meeting at your venue. Meet with your catering manager to finalize the food counts, time line, drop off all set-up items (escort cards, menu cards, favors, guest book, etc.), floor plan, back up plans, etc. If you have a wedding planner, be sure he/she attends this meeting as well.
3. Arrive to the Cape at least 3 days before your wedding. Allow time to get settled, deliver any welcome bags, check in with your venue, etc.
4. Touch base with all of your bridal party to confirm their arrival time to the Cape as well as send them a time line of events for them (where they need to be and when)
5. Have the guys pick up their suits/tuxes if renting
6. Deliver your welcome bags/baskets to your guests
7. Pack for honeymoon if you are travelling immediately after the wedding.
8. Bride & Bridesmaids to get mani/pedis.
9. Have rehearsal ceremony and rehearsal dinner the night before the wedding (or 2 nights before depending on options provided by the ceremony venue and when your bridal party can arrive)
When the morning of your wedding arrives, take the day one moment at a time. Be sure to stop a couple of times during the day and take a deep breath and a mental picture. You want to be able to remember as much as you can and every moment of your day is special. Have fun with your family and friends and relax!!
When planning your wedding, the destination is the first thing to consider. Do you want to stay local or travel to your favorite childhood vacation spot - like Cape Cod? If you are looking to travel, the real question is, is a destination wedding right for you?
How far away are you from your destination location? If you can easily drive 3 hours or less to your destination location, then it is definitely doable. When you have to travel by plane, or drive longer than three hours, it can be difficult to manage all of the details. Hiring a local wedding planner will assist in managing the vendors and details while you plan from afar.
Is your destination location easily accessible for guests? When selecting your destination location be sure that there are many viable options to get your guests to your wedding. Whether it be public transportation, rental cars, private shuttles or boats, be sure that your guests have all of their options ahead of time and that they all know the best and easiest way to get to your wedding. Using your wedding website to show all options is an easy way to get the word out. There are many options on Cape Cod, just be sure your guests are aware of them!
Are there a selection of different accommodation options for all budgets, family sizes, length of stay, etc? When choosing your venue, be sure that there are many different options for your guests accommodations. Your college friends may want the cheap hotel or a rental house and your parent’s friends may prefer a bed and breakfast or a fancier option. Be sure to call around to the hotels in the area to check their availability and to see if they can do a wedding room block for your guests. Also be sure to check on the minimum night stay requirements on weekends, as sometimes there could be a 2-3 night minimum depending on the weekend.
Are you comfortable on the phone? It sounds like a silly question, but since the invention of email lots of people have been putting down the phone in favor of email. If you are going to be planning a destination wedding, you need to feel comfortable picking up the phone and talking to your vendors. It will give the vendors a sense of who you are and instead of waiting around for an email to be answered you can make decisions more rapidly.
Are you taking into consideration busy travel weekends? When planning a wedding at a destination over a holiday weekend, especially on the Cape, you may want to take into consideration the travel details of getting your guests to your wedding. Some locations start their peak seasons over certain holiday weekends or school vacation periods. You do not want to make your guests deal with a ton of traffic getting to or from your destination or have them pay high prices for airfare or hotels rooms if you can help it.
How organized are you? Planning any wedding requires a bit of organization, but having a destination wedding means that you really need to be on top of everything. When living far from your wedding location, you only get so many chances to visit your venue and vendors. This means that you will have to be sure you get all of your questions answered and all of your vendor meetings in while you are there. It could include cake and food tastings, rental decisions, officiant/ceremony meetings, accommodation research, etc. Just be sure that you have a really good wedding binder to organize everything! Or once again, this is another great reason to hire a local wedding planner to manage everything for you!
Plan. Relax. Enjoy.
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