I've Postponed My Wedding...Now What? 5 Tips on what to do now that your date has officially changed
1. Communication is key!
Now it is time to officially let your guests know of the change. Here are a couple of options based on where you are in your invitation process:
If your wedding invites have already been mailed: Contact your guests ASAP. Start with those that RSVPd YES and ask them to update their RSVP with you. After you have a revised headcount of the YES list, you can then extend to those that said NO to see if they can make it on the new date. We recommend emailing or texting your guests to get the word out asap. Update your website as well. You could even create a cute graphic of you and your fiancé to attach to the email and keep the JOY in this new plan!
If your wedding invitations have been printed: You can work with your stationer on options for re-printing or sending a new piece to update your guests. You can also do this digitally to get the word out asap - an email works with a link to your updated wedding website or if you prefer to mail something, our friend from Els cards has some great FREE options available!
If you have designed your invites, or are working on your design, but have yet to print: Ask your stationer for their recommendations for sending out invitations during this time. Seeing that your guests already received a save the date, you may want to alert them via email first and then send out your invites with the new date.
Here is an example of an email that one of our clients sent to their guests:
Dear Family and Friends,
In light of the Coronavirus Pandemic, and with an abundance of caution, we have decided to postpone our wedding to NEW DATE. Many details are still in the process of being worked out and will be updated on our website as soon as they are available.
If you have any information about hotels add it here!
Needless to say we are so sad that our country is facing this horrible crisis and are praying that we all come through this as quickly as possible. So please take care of yourselves, stay safe. We love you all and can’t wait to celebrate!
2. Review Your Wedding Vision
If your new wedding date is a different season, do you need to change your entire wedding vision?? We understand the urge to change with season or if you feel a new direction is what you need to “move on” from your original date. However, we believe that your wedding should still emulate you and your other half and if that means spring colors in fall, then go for it! Anything goes this year - we can’t wait to see bright colors in October!
If you still feel you need to make a change, there are small ways to adjust the wedding, like considering new flowers that are in season for your new date or adding a color to your color palette that can add a new layer to your wedding design without starting from scratch!
Either way, we know your wedding plans may look different but will still have the most important parts...you and your other half!
3. Revisit Important Planning Dates and Appointments
During this process you may have also had some important dates on your calendar that revolve around your wedding planning, like tastings, hair and makeup trials or dress fittings. Review your calendar and see if you still have appointments that need to be updated and contact your vendors to change the date. Also, if you have scheduled any in person meetings between now and mid May, you may want to connect with that vendor to see if they would rather do a video call instead #stayhome
4. Shifting Stays
If your guests have booked their accommodations and you had a room block in place, check in with your hotels about shifting your block and the current reservations to your new date. If your guests have yet to make their reservations, update your wedding website with new room block information and we recommend suggesting they secure trip insurance for peace of mind!
Honeymoon plans in place? We recommend reaching out to a pro to help with your options, Susan Peavey Travel.
5. Celebrate Your Original Wedding Date
You have had your original wedding date set with a heart around it on your calendar for a long time, so why not find a way to still celebrate together! Here are some ideas we have on how you can still make this day special while you are home. #alonetogether
The month of March 2020 has reminded us the importance of our job as wedding planners. We have spent hours with our couples listening to their fears and feeling their heartbreak that their wedding plans are or may be shifting. As we have guided our couples through the postponement process, we wanted to share some helpful tips that we have found keep our couples staying positive through this unprecedented time. #alonetogether
So you just watched the news and learned that your wedding date could be affected by a travel ban or stay at home order...yea, it's natural to feel a little stuck! Uncertainty can be uncomfortable and scary. It’s okay to have these feelings and when you do, we recommend finding your way to feel those feelings and then rally! Whether it’s yoga, meditation, screaming into a pillow, dancing it out or taking a couple of days to unplug and binge watch that show on Netflix. (Tiger King... what?!) Take care of yourself and take advantage of some extra time to reconnect with your future husband or wife! Your wedding planning may look a little different but you always have a reason to celebrate!
Ask for help!
After you have danced it out...turn to your wedding planner for guidance on the first steps to take if you are considering postponing your wedding day. If you don’t have a wedding planner, connect with your venue or catering manager about your potential options. Chances are they have had this conversation with other couples as well. Remember, there may be couples whose wedding dates are before yours and may be first in line but you picked your vendor team for a reason and we (and they) are all hoping to continue working with you in the future.
(Extra tip here: If you would like to stay in the year of 2020, consider “off” dates like Fridays, Sundays or even Mondays! You may have a better chance of moving your entire vendor team to your new wedding date.)
“It was incredibly reassuring knowing that Jamie was by our side, helping us through this difficult time, so much more than a planner, but a friend and a comforter.
Huddle Up! (Virtually)
We are lucky enough to have so many virtual ways to connect with our loved ones today… remember when there was no internet? (You may not but, we promise there was a time!) Schedule a Facetime, Skype, Zoom, WhatsApp call with your core group and fill them in on how you are feeling and that your plans may be changing. Ask for positive vibes only and ask for extra help as you navigate the postponement process.
Vendor Survey Says!
Touch base with all of your vendors. (Including your attire providers and accommodations!) If you are considering a plan B, it can feel like a little daunting to reach out to all of your vendors at once. Your planner can assist here! If not, try sending an email to yourself and bcc your vendors for a quick check in about your alternate date(s) or try an online poll if you have multiple dates you are considering! (Tip: Doodle polls)
Take a moment to review your contracts before you contact your vendors and have an idea of additional questions you may want to ask when they respond about your potential new date.
Friendly reminder, this is an unprecedented situation for everyone but, we are #allinittogether!
“Working with Cape Cod celebrations is by far one of the best decisions we’ve made while wedding planning. Stephanie has been an absolute life saver and truly a pleasure to work with. I’m SO incredibly grateful for all of her help, expertise and guidance.
Last but not least!
From bridal showers & engagement parties to rehearsal dinners & brunches...There are many events that are part of your wedding planning. Here’s your opportunity to lean on your community for sure! Whether you can re-schedule or need to find a new venue for a future date... throw a virtual party on the original date of your event. We all need reasons to celebrate right now!
Reframing your hopes and expectations of your wedding day is likely the last thing you thought you would be doing. We are with you there!! But we take heart in the amazing ways our couples and all of the couples out there have found ways to move forward with love, with humor, with light and with joy! Wedding days will return and we can’t wait to celebrate!
Looking for more tips for staying sane and on task with your wedding plans while at home? Pop over to our most recent blog post and check out our tips, with other wedding vendors, on Loverly.
These are definitely some interesting times we are living in right now, but the last thing we want is for all of this to take the joy out of planning your wedding. So while you are stuck at home, grab a glass of wine, or beverage of your choice, and focus on these 5 things (fun and serious) that you can be doing for your wedding while you have the time on your hands.
As another engagement season comes to a close, we have been chatting with many couples about their wedding plans and helping them decide if they want a wedding planner. Check out the top 12 questions we have answered for our potential couples. We hope it helps you with starting your wedding planning off right!
Question #3: Do you handle more than one wedding at a time?
We believe that each wedding weekend requires your planner’s full attention...especially for any last minute changes or unexpected weather that requires some extra consideration. We plan one wedding per planner per weekend!
Question #4: What are some Do’s and Don’ts of wedding planning?
Some Do’s and Dont’s we like to share with our couples include:
DO: Personalize it!
Set a budget!
Ask questions. We are here to answer!
Have a plan to eat something during the day while you are getting ready.
Have a rain plan.
DON’T: Forget to remember why you are getting married.
Let wedding planning take over all of your trips to the Cape - make time to still enjoy the Cape for the reason you picked it for your wedding!
Stress too much about where people will stay - they will figure it out!
Forget to stop and take it all in!
Question #5: How involved will you be in the wedding planning?
We at Cape Cod Celebrations are fortunate to create relationships with our couples that last long after their wedding weekend. As for the planning process, we can be as hands on and involved or as behind-the-scenes as you would like for us to be! Each couple has different priorities and strengths when it comes to the part of their wedding they take the most ownership of. We recommend setting your budget and take a deep look at your schedules to know where your wedding planner can help you most!
Question #6: What are the best means of staying in contact with you?
Question #7: I have a dog and would love to have him in the ceremony, have you worked with dogs in the past?
Question #8: What are the different wedding packages you offer?
Cape Cod Celebrations offers everything from day of coordination to full service planning. We like to make sure that our planning suits your needs - so even though we offer four main packages, we can customize any of them to ensure you get the assistance that works for you and for your budget. Also, our “day of package” starts a month before your wedding to ensure we have time to learn every little detail you planned so we can execute it perfectly the day of!
Question #9: For most weddings where does the majority of the budget go?
Question #10: I would love an outdoor wedding, any things I should keep in mind?
Question #11: I want to get married on Cape Cod. Where do I start?
Question #12: What is the difference between a wedding planner & a venue or catering manager?
When putting together your vendor team, this is a question that comes up for many couples. It can be a challenge to know if your a wedding planner can fit into your wedding budget and your wedding plans. As wedding planners, we take pride in working side by side with your venue and caterer seamlessly to bring your wedding vision to life. So to answer this one more fully, we turn to some past Cape Cod Celebrations brides to tell you their experience! Follow this link!
Happy New Year and New Decade!
We love to take a minute after the holidays and festivities settle, to reflect on all the wonderful things we accomplished in 2019. It was such an amazing year for us here at Cape Cod Celebrations and once again we cannot express how grateful we are for the support and love we receive from friends, family and vendors in the industry.
Here is a look back at some of the fabulous things that happened in 2019!
In one of our busiest wedding seasons yet...We continue with more from our intern, Maeve!
Once upon a time, on a sunny, ninety degree day on Cape Cod, there was a wedding…and for weeks there had been towers of boxes full of favors, stationary, and Christmas decorations stored away in the office (yes, Christmas in the summer). We were all excited, a little nervous, but still counting down the days til we could see it all come together. What I learned from this experience is it truly takes a village.
We were working in the strongest sun, alongside our team as well as the catering staff, florists, and we were all juggling a million tasks. My biggest takeaway from this experience is knowing what tools will help you be the most successful. There were so many moving parts to this wedding, and in order to keep track of every event and every item, there had to be a way to catalog and organize. I am so grateful for the organization because being able to complete tasks as soon as possible was great for the entire team. Not only were there detailed write-ups of each day, but production schedules mapped out on excel, along with lists of decorations with what they were for, where they were, where they needed to go and if they were to be used again. Utilizing what we already had for different days was a challenge to keep in order. Whether it was frames for signature drinks that changed from day to day, banners with the wedding crest, or lanterns, it was important to re-incorporate decorations and get more than one use out of all these great purchases.
Another learning experience: heat is a challenge. After a while of moving tables, setting up ceremony chairs, and setting decorations - dehydration is easily achieved. Keeping a clear head can be a major problem when you’re working in such intense heat. I definitely was trying to keep track of who was doing what, making sure I was on task and helping to the best of my capabilities. Shout out to Jamie, who a couple hours in to the heat stroke brought a cooler full of Gatorade. That truly felt like Christmas in the summer.
I think it’s important to know what your strengths are, but even more so what your weaknesses are so that you can acknowledge them and hopefully grow. So far, my biggest challenges have been small, tedious projects such as setting up an escort card table: Alphabetizing, the shaky hands pinning them into place, it’s something I didn’t expect to struggle with, but always do. I’m going to set the goal for myself to specifically work on time management and efficiency. I have noticed that with the women I’ve been lucky enough to work with and learn from there is no ego, there is only competence, strength, intelligence, kindness, and a real spirit for wanting to do their job justice. I am so grateful to be working with a team of incredible women. They problem solve calmly and logically, they support one another, they take care of each other. It was truly all hands on deck for this event, making sure that our lead planner, Stephanie, knew she had our full support and could depend on each of us. By watching the women who make up Cape Cod Celebrations, I’m learning how to be a supportive and effective team member, multitask efficiently, and also how to keep a calm, cool, and collected presence when I’m working through the motions of a wedding.
"Cape Cod Couples Tell All" series is back at it again! We took a trip down memory lane with Kate & Nick in June. Now we reminisce with Hannah & Joe who were married August 18, 2012 at Family Tabor Academy/family home in Mattapoisett, MA- 7 years ago this month!!
1. What made you choose Cape Cod for your wedding?
I grew up in Mattapoisett and spent my childhood exploring the shoreline and ocean, and knew that I’d want to get married close to home. I also attended Tabor Academy for high school and wanted to honor that special time in my life by getting married in their chapel.
2. Why would you tell future brides and grooms to get married on Cape Cod?
It is such a beautiful place and has such a cute, quaint feel that is perfect for weddings
1. In a three words, how would you describe your wedding?
Detailed, classy & fun!
2. Was your wedding exactly what you had envisioned?
Even better than I imagined!
3. What was your biggest concern in planning your wedding?
Putting all of my ideas together in a clear, concise and organized way. I had the vision, but wasn’t sure how to pull it all together
4. What was your favorite part of the planning process? What was the most difficult part?
I loved finding special little details to add to the wedding decor to make it really personal, as well as putting together the actual wedding ceremony together myself. The most difficult part was sticking to a budget haha!
5. What was your favorite part of the wedding?
6. Looking back, would you change anything about your wedding? If so, what and why?
I wouldn’t change anything!
7. Who was your favorite vendor?
Our photographer Alanna Scully, who perfectly captured our day with her beautiful photo-journalistic style and candids!
8. What do you think your guests would say their favorite part of your wedding was?
We have heard it time and time again that it was one of the best weddings theyve been to! They loved the food and the dancing!
9. How would you title your wedding? (e.g. The wedding with the best food and dancing!)
The wedding with incredible food, lots of dancing and personalized attention to detail
1. Why did you decide to hire a wedding planner?
I wanted support and help to organize my vision for my special day
2.How did having a planner contribute to the success of your wedding?
Having a planner really helped to pull everything together, I loved also bouncing ideas off of each other, getting an experienced perspective on how different ideas would work, and to help me to save money on most things!
3. For upcoming brides, why do you think it is important for them to consider hiring a
Planning a wedding is so much work and two heads are better than one, and planners help to put our fires that may come up on your wedding day when you should be completely immersed in the day rather than worrying about anything!
4. What was it like working with a planner? What was your overall experience like?
It was excellent! Jamie was incredible from start to finish- she was professional, organized, and incredibly helpful with everything from tracking down our caterer to buying more bottles of vodka the night of the wedding when we were running low, to holding my veil and hiding behind my dress for photos (it was windy), and setting up all the details on the morning of the wedding! She also ran our wedding rehearsal which was incredibly helpful!!
5. Why would you recommend Cape Cod Celebrations over other companies?
Their experience and reputation are a cut above the rest!
1. What advice would you give other brides about planning a wedding?
Hire a planner- for real. Also, have fun through the process and remember the core of why you’re planning a wedding in the first place- to celebrate your partnership and commitment to each other. Sometimes it’s easy to get lost in seating charts and opinions of others, but ultimately it is about the two of you!
2.What was most helpful to you in the planning process?
I loved being able to email/communicate with Jamie whenever I needed to throughout the planning process- it made it easy to tackle things without getting overwhelmed
3. What do you wish you would have known before planning your wedding?
Weddings are more expensive than you think haha! But hiring a planner helped us to save money!
1. What do you think will be the next big trend for weddings? What do you think weddings will be like 20 years from now?
Drones will film it? Or maybe that’s already happening?
2. How’s married life!?
Married life is wonderful and hard and fun and boring and everything in between. We have had some incredible highs and heartbreaking lows, but have grown together through everything.
Each year, Cape Cod Celebrations brings on talented, passionate college students to learn from and support our planners. This year, Maeve Connolly came to use from UMass Amherst with spunk and infectious energy that kept us laughing in the office and on site. A Theater & English major, Maeve took the time this season to put her experience into words. Enjoy the journey below!
But, after the cake has been cut, the dancing has commenced, and I’ve headed home for the night, I can’t wait to tell my family about the great people I’ve just met. It is a true privilege to be invited into such a special day for a family, especially when the couple knows this day is just as much theirs as it is about their families uniting. I sit on the couch and gush to my mom about how I held the train of a bride’s dress as she and her father took a moment to tell each other they loved one another. I talk about how I hugged the father of the bride because I was so happy to have helped him that day. I talk about how thoughtful the bride and groom were to write handwritten notes to all of their guests and how happy they were to be in each other’s arms.
Those quiet and intimate moments are the most worthwhile in my eyes. It’s what will create a lasting impression on people’s hearts when thinking back to the celebration of those two people, myself included.
I was a part of a celebration that will be remembered as the start of their lives, their families, and one day their kids will see those special photos of their parents. Whether it’s in a frame on a desk, on top of the mantle, or maybe even stumbled upon while cleaning out a drawer, when they see those photos, they’ll ask their parents about that day. I hope that they will begin to reminisce about their perfect wedding, cherishing the memories of the vows, the flowers, the dancing, the cake, but most of all how happy they were to marry each other in front of their family and friends. Though I didn’t know these couples for an extended amount of time, the happiness and warmth I felt for them as they said “I do” is immeasurable.
Back in 2017 we started a "Cape Cod Couples Tell All" series with Scott and Leonora and continued it last year with Annie and Brian. This year we are kicking it back in to gear with Kate & Nick who were married June 13, 2015 at Chequessett Yacht & Country Club - 4 years ago!
1.What made you choose Cape Cod for your wedding?
Growing up, I (Kate) went to the Cape most summers. My parents would rent houses in Eastham, Wellfleet, and Truro, and we’d spend anywhere from a weekend to a week to a month there. I loved our time there beyond measure; it will always hold a special place for me. And now my father has a place in Truro so we’re lucky enough to go whenever we want (and can).
2.Why would you tell future brides and grooms to get married on Cape Cod?
Despite the fact that it’s a popular vacation destination, the part of the Cape that we go to — the lower Cape — still manages to feel like a well-kept secret. There are few places more beautiful. And your guests won’t feel overwhelmed with too many choices, since it’s very insular. The only things they need to do are go to the beach and eat fried food. So liberating!
1.In a three words, how would you describe your wedding?
Lighthearted, elegant, fun.
2.Was your wedding exactly what you had envisioned?
3.What was your biggest concern in planning your wedding?
Day of logistics totally freaked me out. I couldn’t imagine how everything would go according to plan – since I’d never done it before. Stephanie made everything so, so easy.
4.What was your favorite part of the planning process? What was the most difficult part?
I loved all the special touches. For our table place cards (STEPHANIE: WTF IS THIS CALLED? TOTAL BRAIN MALFUNCTION), I picked a different Lego mini-figure for each person. My friend Jeff is a writer, so he had a guy with a little laptop; my dad is a food writer, so he was the chef; my mom was Wonder Woman; Nick’s dad loves cycling so he had a little guy with a bicycle. It was a labor of love. And when guests sat down, they sat down to small framed photo of themselves with either me or Nick (or both of us). I think the hardest part was knowing when to let go. I’m extremely detail-oriented and – ugh – Type A, so it’s hard to know when to stop.
5.What was your favorite part of the wedding?
The ceremony – knowing that all our favorite people were gathered in one space. When will that ever happen again?!
6.Looking back, would you change anything about your wedding?
If so, what and why? I wish we’d had another hour to dance!
7.Who was your favorite vendor?
Honestly? I loved all of them. Our flowers were absolutely perfect. The food was incredible, not at all like traditional wedding food. Our DJ just got us 100%. Stephanie is an angel. CCYC is a little piece of heaven, as are our pals that work there. Our photographer, Justin, really worked with us to understand what we did and didn’t want.
8.What do you think your guests would say their favorite part of your wedding was?
How relaxed it all felt.
9.How would you title your wedding? (e.g. The wedding with the best food and dancing!)
A blissed out party.
1.Why did you decide to hire a wedding planner?
I was fine with all the lead up to the wedding, but I really wanted help for day of. I didn’t want to ask favors of my friends and family and knew we’d need someone to make sure everything flowed.
2.How did having a planner contribute to the success of your wedding?
We had absolutely zero worries day-of. Zero. That’s priceless! And super rare.
3.For upcoming brides, why do you think it is important for them to consider hiring a planner?
A planner will catch every minute detail so that you won’t wake up in the middle of the night stressing (as much).
4.What was it like working with a planner? What was your overall experience like?
It was SO easy. Stephanie is an excellent reader of people, and she totally understood us and what we wanted. If you asked me for a negative, I wouldn’t be able to give you one.
5.Why would you recommend Cape Cod Celebrations over other companies?
Everyone is very relaxed and kind, and I think they’re all really good at reading people, reading the specific needs of each individual person. Everyone gets help that feels personalized.
1.What advice would you give other brides about planning a wedding?
Figure out a few special touches and work really hard on those; let other things be more relaxed. You can’t stress out about every single thing. So pick your battles. Don’t feel like you need to do everything yourself; a good partner will want to help. (And a planner is paid to help!)
2.What was most helpful to you in the planning process?
Excel spreadsheets, of course. Friends’ advice and brainstorming.
3.What do you wish you would have known before planning your wedding?
That so many of those tiny little things that nagged at me really didn’t matter in the long run.
1.What do you think will be the next big trend for weddings?
What do you think weddings will be like 20 years from now? Next big trend – people getting married with their friends! Like: double weddings. Why not? 20 years from now: a lot simpler.
2.How’s married life!?
Everyone said being married would change everything, but for us, nothing changed – it was the same as it was when we were just living together (thankfully!). Now, though, we have a three-year-old. THAT changes things! Co-parenting is hard – you really need to be in sync. But we’re navigating it together, and our son is the happiest sweetest boy – we’ll do everything we can to make sure that doesn’t change! It’ll be fun to show him pictures of our wedding one day when he can really understand what it is.
Planning your honeymoon and not sure if you want to take off the day after your wedding for 2 weeks? Enter the Mini-Moon! We have seen the trend lately of delaying your honeymoon until a later date, like your first anniversary, and planning a short "mini-moon" after your wedding to get away. Today we share some of our favorite mini-moon locations that are a hop, skip and a jump away from Cape Cod and make for a perfect 2-3 day getaway!
Listed first of course as it is Jamie's most favorite place on the planet, but this little island is a short plane ride or hour ferry ride from Hyannis and feels like a true escape. With fabulous beaches, restaurants and one of the most fun brewery/winery/distillery locations - it is a perfect mini-moon getaway. Rent a bike or a jeep to get around the island or stay in town where everything is within walking distance. Have lunch at the Jetties and dinner at one of the upscale venues downtown, like the Nautilus - and then do not forget ice cream! If you are planning your mini-moon on Nantucket, reach out to Jamie for recommendations - she loves to talk about this island!
The Cape's 2nd island, Martha's Vineyard, is also a beautiful place to escape to and is much larger than Nantucket. With many towns to choose from, each with their own unique style, the Vineyard will keep you busy! Rent a car to travel around town to town or use their public transportation to see the island. Don't miss Back Door Donuts, the Oak Bluffs Campground, dining and shopping in Edgartown and the stunning Aquinnah Cliffs and beautiful beaches of course!
Stay on the Cape and drive north-east to Provincetown where you can take dune tours, go to a winery, brewery and dine waterfront all in the same day! With fabulous B&Bs, restaurants and nightlife, Provincetown does not disappoint. No car is needed while in town and then hop the ferry back to Boston to get to Logan and fly back home...or extend your stay with a night in Beantown! Be sure to check the events calendar as Provincetown has many wonderful weekend events, which could add or detract from your stay depending on what is going on and what you want to do!
Newport, Rhode Island
Just an hour and a half away from the Cape is another amazing waterfront town, Newport, RI. Stop at Newport Vineyards on your way in to town to kick off your mini-moon and then plan beach days, boat tours and make restaurant reservations to enjoy your time on this quaint island. Don't miss the Cliff Walk for a romantic stroll along the ocean or the mansion tours - this town is filled with history, and is also where Jamie went to college!
The furthest of our recommendations, Portland, ME is about 3 hours from the Cape, but worth the trip! Portland is a wonderful waterfront city with amazing restaurants, nightlife and fun things do to. Find a brewery for a lazy afternoon, take a ferry to Peak's Island for a boat ride and adventure and do not miss The Holy Donut for breakfast or Duckfat for dinner!
Comment below if you have planned your mini-moon on or near the Cape!
Plan. Relax. Enjoy.
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